Fr. Jean d'Elbée

Must we ask for the Cross? No. Must we look for it? No again. Accept with thanksgiving everything that happens to you.  Accept the unexpected crosses - they are the most painful: the sickness which immobilized you, the feeling of being useless and a burden to others, of knowing that while you are needed you are being prevented from doing what you ought to do; the humiliations, contradictions, slanders, calumnies, ingratitude, bad will, criticisms, good intentions misunderstood, family quarrels, very sorrowful bereavements, separations, and reverses of fortune.  Put up with yourself, with your thousand physical, intellectual, and moral miseries. Then there is the cross of having carried the cross badly.

I Believe in Love, pages 208,209